" You can play piano by youself,
but it becomes MUSIC,
when someone hears it!" Cyrus Merchant
We are living in the the world which is demanding and competitive! And so it is very difficult to get the time to listen, to talk to each other even if we want to.We are pre-occupied with our selves.
I am a working parent. It happened with me last week and I would like to share the same.
My son is in Std.X. We dont get much time to interact as we used to get earlier when we were having the same timings. Now we both are in the different shifts. We get very little time to spend with each other.And in those hours when we are together, we both have our own set of work.
Before we go to sleep we talk little. That day he was about to share something and I got a call...I looked at him, he smiled with a look that "Oh! Now I cannot talk to mom!”...I tried to finish my call at earliest but he was fast asleep.
I felt very bad and also sad. But I console myself that I can make it in the morning. I did.
He replied," Ma, I don't know what I wanted to tell you yesterday night, I forgot." I just left with the feeling of regret!
We are busy, they are busy...No time...No patience...
All of us do ask them and talk to them...have you reached home? Had your food? Did your home work? Did you attend your coaching?
We also make sure that they don’t watch much of T.V, or play out more [and we feel that they share everything with us].
ADDING to that can we also ask...how are your friends doing? What type of mischief is happening in the school? Don’t you feel like bunking so and so class sometimes? Isn’t it your so and so friend is very smart?
AND also sharing what we used to think and did in our school days (of course in a limit...as they are more smart than us!!!)
Yes, there are children who does not share even if the parent try hard...BUT please do not stop playing your part...
Because we can foresee their friends, their thought process (where it is going) and guide them ANYTIME better than their peer group.
It's like your routine- - -brushing your teeth , eating , sleeping...we must make it a point to share or rather a habit.
This is possible ONLY when we are permanent residents in our children's lives and not just visitors!
If we decide that we will definitely make up some beautiful moments everyday, WE CAN.
I am sure we can stop having more Adnanas and Arushis (we don't know the facts) as they do not deserve such END!!!
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Hi Amisha
It was wonderful to read your article . I am also a working parent and have the same feelings . But i would like to suggest the parents that time gone never comes back . There will be some time when these little ones will be far from us and then we will be waiting for their reply . So i would love to spend as much time as i can and give them the best of values whatever i can . It really touched me and shall be waiting for more of your views to share with . Bye for now. Purnima
Hello Amisha,
I am reading your articles form last week. You are really speaking my heart out!! As a working mother i sometimes have a guilt working in my head...i dont know its right or wrong.Once the time gone will never come back....and my child will enter into his own world. So i try to spend as much time with my child so that there is no gap in between us,i really try hard for that.Waiting for your more lovely articles.
This is Soma
Hi! Amisha, I read your article as wellas viewers comments ..the problem which is shared is not only of working parents BUT many mothers who are at home their children are also looking for good listeners and when they see themslves lost in the crowd ....there we need counsellors. At that moment counselling is necessarry for the parents not the child.
In the present scenario we lead a more "Calendar Like" lives. Deadlines and targets rule our lives more than love, sharing and caring for our near and dear ones. We forget to say lend a patient ear to our old parents, our spouse, our children or even to a friend. I can truly understand the guilt you must have felt. But we cannot let guilt rule our lives. It is at this point that your article forces us to introspect and realise what our priorities are in life. Thanks so much
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