Every day we meet many people, who are our relatives,friends, collegues, neighbours.....we relate differently with everyone.
We have different feelings and expressions for each one of them.
We do have some feelings, expressions for the people who are not known to us
(say while walking on the road or while travelling).
If you observe,seeing some people we feel good,
eventhough they have not done anything.
Seeing some people we feel irritated, disgusted,
eventhough they have not harm us anyway.
Why???
These are the vibrations,reflections of thoughts which we are passing to each other.
Each one of us must have experienced a sudden change in relations at some point of our life. The best of the best relations come to an end abruptly.
This abrupt end, we generally end with blaming game.
BUT the only fact is some where some one is hurt so badly that they cannot handle,cannot accept.Because they didnot expect something from their loved ones.
A small reason, a little haste, a little ego, a short vision...finishes everything at one stroke.
If we observe life minutely, everything in life is destined,its karmic...
...We are only the carriers for some one,for something.
Its always said that BIRTH, DEATH and MARRIAGE is already destined and that no one can change.
Can we choose our parents?
Can we plan our death?
And marriage...we know how we get that one person!!!
And that one person becomes so important in our life that we forget the whole world! Isn't it surprising???
Let the destiny play it's role but we must help ourselves by:
Being good and not stupid
Being polite and not harsh
Being firm and not rude
Being simple and not complex!
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Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
NO TIME, PLEASE!!!
“Life never turns the way we want,
But we live it the best way we can.
There’s no perfect life;
But we can fill it with perfect moments!”
Seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years…passing…just passing AND we don’t have time!!!
Every time we decide to complete our half-done things…and it remains incomplete…bcoz time nahi hai!
Every time we decide to solve certain problems, issues…and it remains unsolved…bcoz time nahi hai!
Every time we decide to at least take care of our health…and it remains untouched…bcoz bilkul hi time nahi hai!
Every time we decide to be contented with our life…and WE ARE NEVER…bcoz TIME HAI… (We have so much time to check on what we don’t have)!!!!
All these divert in to…insecurity, anxiety, health problems, stress, and dissatisfaction.
Finally, it results in to sudden collapses, severe health hazards, suicides, untimely death, murders, looting…
We, at bottom of our heart know why this is happening. In fact we do get signals on and on BUT we ignore, we neglect, we are scared to know, we are so obsessed that we overlook all the signals.
I know it is easy to pen down, but than, how we will come out of this vivacious circle of our created lifestyle? We need to remind ourselves repeatedly.
If we will not set the boundaries, limitations, satisfactions for our progress/success, harmony in our relationships, overcome our fears; handle our discomforts than who will do it? And why anyone should do it for us?
Let us be aware of the facts, BEFORE it turns in to fantasy;
Let us be aware of the path, BEFORE it turns to pitfall;
Let us be aware of the results, BEFORE it turns to a drastic end.
But we live it the best way we can.
There’s no perfect life;
But we can fill it with perfect moments!”
Seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years…passing…just passing AND we don’t have time!!!
Every time we decide to complete our half-done things…and it remains incomplete…bcoz time nahi hai!
Every time we decide to solve certain problems, issues…and it remains unsolved…bcoz time nahi hai!
Every time we decide to at least take care of our health…and it remains untouched…bcoz bilkul hi time nahi hai!
Every time we decide to be contented with our life…and WE ARE NEVER…bcoz TIME HAI… (We have so much time to check on what we don’t have)!!!!
All these divert in to…insecurity, anxiety, health problems, stress, and dissatisfaction.
Finally, it results in to sudden collapses, severe health hazards, suicides, untimely death, murders, looting…
We, at bottom of our heart know why this is happening. In fact we do get signals on and on BUT we ignore, we neglect, we are scared to know, we are so obsessed that we overlook all the signals.
I know it is easy to pen down, but than, how we will come out of this vivacious circle of our created lifestyle? We need to remind ourselves repeatedly.
If we will not set the boundaries, limitations, satisfactions for our progress/success, harmony in our relationships, overcome our fears; handle our discomforts than who will do it? And why anyone should do it for us?
Let us be aware of the facts, BEFORE it turns in to fantasy;
Let us be aware of the path, BEFORE it turns to pitfall;
Let us be aware of the results, BEFORE it turns to a drastic end.
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
IF OLD IS GOLD than...
She is energetic, she is enthusiastic,
She is curious, she is talkative,
She is active, she is a friend and philosopher
She is an ordinary house-wife,
She is different, she is 58!
She is a woman who has two young daughters-in-law!!!
Why I am writing about her?
It's simply because I sensed a child in her and at the same time I saw youth in her.
When you meet someone with such positive energy, you are introduced to the new world of FRESHNESS!
We come across many such people in our life.
They have also had their share of struggle, difficulties, regrets...experiences are same everywhere.
It is not the age, it is not the securities in life, it is not the status in the family or society.
It is ONLY and ONLY our ATTITUDE towards our own self and towards LIFE!
When we are toddlers, our family are a part of our life.
When we are young, family and we become a part of each other.
But the age, when we have fulfilled all our responsibilities, when we are not running the cat-race, WE SHOULD BE PART OF our family.
If both,new and old generation balance their pace,and go hand in hand, living in this world would be a wonderful experience!!!
We must not forget if :
OLD IS GOLD,
THAN NEW IS EXTENTION OF THE SAME GOLD!
She is curious, she is talkative,
She is active, she is a friend and philosopher
She is an ordinary house-wife,
She is different, she is 58!
She is a woman who has two young daughters-in-law!!!
Why I am writing about her?
It's simply because I sensed a child in her and at the same time I saw youth in her.
When you meet someone with such positive energy, you are introduced to the new world of FRESHNESS!
We come across many such people in our life.
They have also had their share of struggle, difficulties, regrets...experiences are same everywhere.
It is not the age, it is not the securities in life, it is not the status in the family or society.
It is ONLY and ONLY our ATTITUDE towards our own self and towards LIFE!
When we are toddlers, our family are a part of our life.
When we are young, family and we become a part of each other.
But the age, when we have fulfilled all our responsibilities, when we are not running the cat-race, WE SHOULD BE PART OF our family.
If both,new and old generation balance their pace,and go hand in hand, living in this world would be a wonderful experience!!!
We must not forget if :
OLD IS GOLD,
THAN NEW IS EXTENTION OF THE SAME GOLD!
Friday, July 4, 2008
It's just a bend and not the end!
“Often when we loose all hope and think this is the end
God smiles from above & says,
'Relax Sweet Heart, It’s just a bend and not the end'!"
----- SMS
There are many ups and downs in life. We get upset, stressed, confused, depressed and above all we get hurt.We get hurt the most, when our own people criticize us, nag us, find faults in whatever we do.
We feel HELPLESS because we can fight, argue, justify with outsiders but with our parents, spouses, children, brothers, sisters..... We only experience heartburn.
Last week a couple came to me for their tarot reading.Both were talking about their life’s ups and downs.They were concerned about a secured life and well-being of their children. In the course of our discussion,the husband said that from his interaction with people around, socially and professionally, he felt that his wife understood him the best.His wife and I both felt good,but it was temporary.
He continued," I have understood that now when I feel angry or stressed;
I throw my frustration only on her!"
Nothing shocking about it, because this gentleman spoke out naturally and there are many who just put it in action!
So the crust of our life is 'We always need a punching bag. '
This is not only in the relationship of husband and wife or employer-employee (even though it the most common), but it is easily, naturally and righteously transferred to our children. Finally we create an unhealthy environment for every one.
We name our shortcoming as our stress, tensions, responsibilities...The time has come now to KNOW, to ACCEPT and to HANDLE our short comings.
I have realized and experienced from my life that “What You Look for, You Get It."
You look faults; you find it (because no one is perfect)
You look for negativity; you find it (because no one is 100% positive) AND
You look for peace, you find it (because the peace is with in)...
Now let’s not say that we do try but all in vain. We know the truth.
Let's ask ourselves daily...Do we get tired finding faults? Do we get tired blaming others?
If we understand the problems in life, it is only because we don't realise WHAT, WHEN & HOW, to communicate (here. i don't mean just talking) effectively (especially with people who matter the most).
As Robin Sharma says,
“Delete what needs to be eliminated from your life - you will feel lighter, happier and your mind will experience more PEACE."
At least START doing for the next generation, if we really do care for them!!!
God smiles from above & says,
'Relax Sweet Heart, It’s just a bend and not the end'!"
----- SMS
There are many ups and downs in life. We get upset, stressed, confused, depressed and above all we get hurt.We get hurt the most, when our own people criticize us, nag us, find faults in whatever we do.
We feel HELPLESS because we can fight, argue, justify with outsiders but with our parents, spouses, children, brothers, sisters..... We only experience heartburn.
Last week a couple came to me for their tarot reading.Both were talking about their life’s ups and downs.They were concerned about a secured life and well-being of their children. In the course of our discussion,the husband said that from his interaction with people around, socially and professionally, he felt that his wife understood him the best.His wife and I both felt good,but it was temporary.
He continued," I have understood that now when I feel angry or stressed;
I throw my frustration only on her!"
Nothing shocking about it, because this gentleman spoke out naturally and there are many who just put it in action!
So the crust of our life is 'We always need a punching bag. '
This is not only in the relationship of husband and wife or employer-employee (even though it the most common), but it is easily, naturally and righteously transferred to our children. Finally we create an unhealthy environment for every one.
We name our shortcoming as our stress, tensions, responsibilities...The time has come now to KNOW, to ACCEPT and to HANDLE our short comings.
I have realized and experienced from my life that “What You Look for, You Get It."
You look faults; you find it (because no one is perfect)
You look for negativity; you find it (because no one is 100% positive) AND
You look for peace, you find it (because the peace is with in)...
Now let’s not say that we do try but all in vain. We know the truth.
Let's ask ourselves daily...Do we get tired finding faults? Do we get tired blaming others?
If we understand the problems in life, it is only because we don't realise WHAT, WHEN & HOW, to communicate (here. i don't mean just talking) effectively (especially with people who matter the most).
As Robin Sharma says,
“Delete what needs to be eliminated from your life - you will feel lighter, happier and your mind will experience more PEACE."
At least START doing for the next generation, if we really do care for them!!!
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Chini kum...
“Chini kum hai, Chini kum hai,
Thodi thodi tuj me hai kum
Kum kum
Dhire dhire holle holle
Door door hogi problem kum
Hum dum.”
How sweet and beautiful lines! When we actually listen with the rhythm it is sweeter and makes you feel fresh and enthusiastic.
Today I had bitter gourd in lunch; I had put some sweet to make the gourd eatable. But the bitter taste remained the entire day.Of course,it did not damage me anywhere.
Do you think it is the same with our words? Bitterness in our words and bodylanguage (especially our facial expression)can cause terrible damage. We all must have gone thru’ same bitterness some where in our life. Did we like it???
Do we like ‘kheer’ (porridge) without any sweetness? ...NO...
We assume and accept that Kheer is supposed to be sweet.
The same way our relations are supposed to be sweet and humble.
Life is nothing but rhythm. We miss one note and the entire base collapses.
We make good dishes for the guest; wear good clothes when we go out; use better words in our workplace.
We do all these because we are very sure that they – outsiders will ONLY take rhythmic notes from you…
We all have our own share of burdens both socially and economically, we all are trying to cope up for better living and will continue to do so life long.
The cost of living is increasing with the rate of inflation. It is quite difficult to erase all our burdens completely but at least the areas which are under our control can be made more worthwhile!
My brother always says; if the home front is taken care of well; the war front (work) will be taken care of automatically.
Once we start using ‘chini’ unlimited in our home front…the rest of the areas will soon start taking their actual positions.
Thodi thodi tuj me hai kum
Kum kum
Dhire dhire holle holle
Door door hogi problem kum
Hum dum.”
How sweet and beautiful lines! When we actually listen with the rhythm it is sweeter and makes you feel fresh and enthusiastic.
Today I had bitter gourd in lunch; I had put some sweet to make the gourd eatable. But the bitter taste remained the entire day.Of course,it did not damage me anywhere.
Do you think it is the same with our words? Bitterness in our words and bodylanguage (especially our facial expression)can cause terrible damage. We all must have gone thru’ same bitterness some where in our life. Did we like it???
Do we like ‘kheer’ (porridge) without any sweetness? ...NO...
We assume and accept that Kheer is supposed to be sweet.
The same way our relations are supposed to be sweet and humble.
Life is nothing but rhythm. We miss one note and the entire base collapses.
We make good dishes for the guest; wear good clothes when we go out; use better words in our workplace.
We do all these because we are very sure that they – outsiders will ONLY take rhythmic notes from you…
We all have our own share of burdens both socially and economically, we all are trying to cope up for better living and will continue to do so life long.
The cost of living is increasing with the rate of inflation. It is quite difficult to erase all our burdens completely but at least the areas which are under our control can be made more worthwhile!
My brother always says; if the home front is taken care of well; the war front (work) will be taken care of automatically.
Once we start using ‘chini’ unlimited in our home front…the rest of the areas will soon start taking their actual positions.
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